Realizing your delusion is merely the first step. Asking God to forgive you is the second step. Asking your wife to forgive you is the next step but it may not be that easy. Possibly, if you were South Ga. Delusional for very long, she probably hates the sound of your voice or has chosen to dismiss you entirely by now. If so we have a tool for that, but you probably will not like using the tool.
Yes, I make it sound like it falls on you the male. I know, I am told this often by male counslees who seem to be still somewhat delusional. If you have a broken down truck and a trailer with a flat tire, which needs to be fixed first? Sure you can fix the flat tire first, but until the broke down truck is fixed, the trailer will not be going anywhere unless someone with a running truck comes along and hooks to the trailer. That is how trailers get stolen.
This is SouthGeorgia Simple; if you do not want your trailer pulled by another truck ,you best keep your truck running and your trailer in good running condition. The trailer cannot push the truck we all know this. The friction in your marriage likely comes from you not keeping the hubs greased on the trailer wheels and keeping the tires inflated and staying hitched to the trailer. You have to unhitch the trailer when your truck breaks down. The problem occurs when you unhitch the trailer and keep running up and down the highway without changing your oil.
If you do not change your oil, your motor will break down. The oil is what is on the inside of your truck motor making things run smooth. In spiritual terms that could be the Holy Spirit of God. The Holy Spirit is often represented by a different type of oil in the Bible. Anointing with oil is representative of the Holy Spirit. Is your truck motor all gunked up on the inside? You need an internal overhaul before it will ever run right, before it will ever run smooth.
It's South Georgia simple to get the gunk out. It takes knowing Jesus by admitting that you are all gunked up and you need Him to overhaul your life. You need some of that good oil internally that never breaks down. the Holy Spirit of God.
Take a look at Psalm 51 in: The Message paraphrase. Read through the last verse and do something South Georgia Simple; let God shatter your pride before you lock up your motor and can't pull your trailer anymore.
Psalm 51:2-17 (MSG) 2 Scrub away my guilt, soak out my sins in your laundry. 3 I know how bad I've been; my sins are staring me down. 4 You're the One I've violated, and you've seen it all, seen the full extent of my evil. You have all the facts before you; whatever you decide about me is fair. 5 I've been out of step with you for a long time, in the wrong since before I was born. 6 What you're after is truth from the inside out. Enter me, then; conceive a new, true life. 7 Soak me in your laundry and I'll come out clean, scrub me and I'll have a snow-white life. 8 Tune me in to foot-tapping songs, set these once-broken bones to dancing. 9 Don't look too close for blemishes, give me a clean bill of health. 10 God, make a fresh start in me, shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life. 11 Don't throw me out with the trash, or fail to breathe holiness in me. 12 Bring me back from gray exile, put a fresh wind in my sails! 13 Give me a job teaching rebels your ways so the lost can find their way home. 14 Commute my death sentence, God, my salvation God, and I'll sing anthems to your life-giving ways. 15 Unbutton my lips, dear God; I'll let loose with your praise. 16 Going through the motions doesn't please you, a flawless performance is nothing to you. 17 I learned God-worship when my pride was shattered. Heart-shattered lives ready for love don't for a moment escape God's notice.
Now pray this scripture back to God until tears, yes tears begin to fall from your eyes. No tears ?You are still Sooth Georgia Delusional. Ask God to break your pride and deception.
Friday, January 23, 2009
Thursday, January 15, 2009
South Georgia Delusional
So what do you do when she says: “I’m Done”. We all know the various things the typical male does, but that cannot be the response here. First of all, she may be doing some things wrong but essentially you are the problem with your marriage.
You can be “South Georgia delusional” if you want about what marriage should be, I am guessing you do not really have a clue about anything except maybe your job.
South Georgia delusional begins when you are thinking life will be a big party where she will party with you when you let her and she will “cool” with you parting without her and won’t fuss and fight about your late nights or your drinking or even your porn. SGD (South Georgia Delusional) will even cause you to think that you can be gone fishing, hunting all the time and she will raise the kids, clean the house, pay the bills with the money you allow her to have, cook your meals, do your laundry and be waiting on you in the latest from Victoria’s Secret when you get home. That is SGD!
Laugh, ignore, even cuss me for saying so if you want, but to some degree this is true about you unless you have a reality check. For many that reality check does not come until she say: I’m Done!” Being a good provider and coming home at night is not what being a husband is all about. Get out a dictionary and look up husband take the second definition probably labeled “archaic” which defines husband as a manager or steward.
You are a caretaker of your wife. This does not mean that she cannot take care of herself, or that she is not capable. You have been SGD about how to be a husband. You are to do more than bring home a paycheck, get her a minivan and get her a house. There is more to life than material things. You have to meet her emotional needs this is more than sex and you have to see that her spiritual needs are also met.
Yes, I said sex because sex within the bonds of marriage is not dirty and I do not have to be ashamed to write about sex appropriately. God created sex, not just for reproduction but for pleasure also. Care taking even applies here as well. Meeting the needs of a woman is your job as a husband and it applies to physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Chances are your sex life has been more about meeting your needs than hers and she graciously has gone along with you, but for how long?
The first lesson, for a husband: It’s not about you! First life is about God and marriage is about God and God can only be first in your life through Jesus Christ. Here is a suggestion to take the first step in saving a marriage. Find out if you have a true saving relationship with Jesus Christ. Read these verses from the Holy Bible: Romans 3:10-12 Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, Romans 10:9-10 and John 6:47. If you need help with this email me pastor@albanycentralbaptist.net
If you are already sure that you have a personal relationship with Christ then get on your knees and start crying out to Him and admitting to Him your own selfishness in your marriage and ask Him to show you all the failures and sins in your life. As these things come to mind, ask Jesus to forgive you. If you have questions email me. Watch for the next post and we shall go to the next step in saving a marriage.
You can be “South Georgia delusional” if you want about what marriage should be, I am guessing you do not really have a clue about anything except maybe your job.
South Georgia delusional begins when you are thinking life will be a big party where she will party with you when you let her and she will “cool” with you parting without her and won’t fuss and fight about your late nights or your drinking or even your porn. SGD (South Georgia Delusional) will even cause you to think that you can be gone fishing, hunting all the time and she will raise the kids, clean the house, pay the bills with the money you allow her to have, cook your meals, do your laundry and be waiting on you in the latest from Victoria’s Secret when you get home. That is SGD!
Laugh, ignore, even cuss me for saying so if you want, but to some degree this is true about you unless you have a reality check. For many that reality check does not come until she say: I’m Done!” Being a good provider and coming home at night is not what being a husband is all about. Get out a dictionary and look up husband take the second definition probably labeled “archaic” which defines husband as a manager or steward.
You are a caretaker of your wife. This does not mean that she cannot take care of herself, or that she is not capable. You have been SGD about how to be a husband. You are to do more than bring home a paycheck, get her a minivan and get her a house. There is more to life than material things. You have to meet her emotional needs this is more than sex and you have to see that her spiritual needs are also met.
Yes, I said sex because sex within the bonds of marriage is not dirty and I do not have to be ashamed to write about sex appropriately. God created sex, not just for reproduction but for pleasure also. Care taking even applies here as well. Meeting the needs of a woman is your job as a husband and it applies to physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Chances are your sex life has been more about meeting your needs than hers and she graciously has gone along with you, but for how long?
The first lesson, for a husband: It’s not about you! First life is about God and marriage is about God and God can only be first in your life through Jesus Christ. Here is a suggestion to take the first step in saving a marriage. Find out if you have a true saving relationship with Jesus Christ. Read these verses from the Holy Bible: Romans 3:10-12 Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, Romans 10:9-10 and John 6:47. If you need help with this email me pastor@albanycentralbaptist.net
If you are already sure that you have a personal relationship with Christ then get on your knees and start crying out to Him and admitting to Him your own selfishness in your marriage and ask Him to show you all the failures and sins in your life. As these things come to mind, ask Jesus to forgive you. If you have questions email me. Watch for the next post and we shall go to the next step in saving a marriage.
Monday, January 12, 2009
When She Says: "I'm Done"
If she has already told you that she is "done" then you are in crisis mode but in 8 out of 10 cases over the last eight years; "I'm Done" does not mean that there is no hope for saving the marriage.
In most cases when the female spouse has reached this point, she has being sending up smoke signals for months, possibly even years, but now she has decided to torch the village and plow up the ashes as far as her marriage to the likes of you. She never got what she truly needed from you as a husband, although you may have trouble realizing this at first. You didn't respond to the smoke signals for help because you were engrossed in yourself , or asleep at the wheel in your marriage.
Fear not, there is hope! If you ever had anything to begin with in your relationship there is absolute hope, but you have to be willing to follow proven advice. If you are a prideful man this will probably not work for you, unless you are truly broken over the iminent threat of loosing your marriage.
Interested? I am willing to help and my help is free. Oh, it's worth money, people gladly pay $75 per hour for my help. I am a caring person who wants to see your marriage saved and thriving the way marriage is intended to be, especially if you have children. I want to see families stay together and get the most out of life.
If you cannot wait until my next post and I suggest that you don't wait; email me at: pastor@albanycentralbaptist.net Several times weekly I will post the most helpful information used in our counseling practice so that anyone who can and will use the information can have free access to information that may help them in maintaining or rescuing a marriage.
In most cases when the female spouse has reached this point, she has being sending up smoke signals for months, possibly even years, but now she has decided to torch the village and plow up the ashes as far as her marriage to the likes of you. She never got what she truly needed from you as a husband, although you may have trouble realizing this at first. You didn't respond to the smoke signals for help because you were engrossed in yourself , or asleep at the wheel in your marriage.
Fear not, there is hope! If you ever had anything to begin with in your relationship there is absolute hope, but you have to be willing to follow proven advice. If you are a prideful man this will probably not work for you, unless you are truly broken over the iminent threat of loosing your marriage.
Interested? I am willing to help and my help is free. Oh, it's worth money, people gladly pay $75 per hour for my help. I am a caring person who wants to see your marriage saved and thriving the way marriage is intended to be, especially if you have children. I want to see families stay together and get the most out of life.
If you cannot wait until my next post and I suggest that you don't wait; email me at: pastor@albanycentralbaptist.net Several times weekly I will post the most helpful information used in our counseling practice so that anyone who can and will use the information can have free access to information that may help them in maintaining or rescuing a marriage.
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